by Brooke Patterson | Oct 27, 2025 | Boundaries, Couples Therapy, Relationship Skills, RLT, Uncategorized
It started, as it often does, with something small. She rolled her eyes. He sighed. Within seconds, voices got sharper, shoulders stiffened, and two people who loved each other suddenly looked like strangers in a standoff. When I said, “Let’s pause for a time out,”...
by Brooke Patterson | Oct 13, 2025 | Anger, Couples Therapy, Relationship Skills, RLT, Uncategorized
By Brooke Patterson, RCC Repairing after a fight isn’t about deciding who was right or wrong — it’s about finding your way back to each other. In Relational Life Therapy (RLT), repair is the act of reconnecting. This means: Taking responsibility for your part...
by Tanya Schecter | Oct 6, 2025 | Anger, Boundaries, Couples Therapy, Gottman, Relationship Skills, RLT, Uncategorized
Conflict isn’t a sign your relationship is broken — it’s a sign you’re in one. Ed Tronick, the developmental psychologist who studied parent–child bonds, found that all good relationships move through a rhythm: connection, disconnection, and repair. The magic isn’t in...
by Tanya Schecter | Sep 8, 2025 | Couples Therapy, Relationship Skills, RLT, Uncategorized
How many times have you been in the middle of an argument with the person you love and found yourself rebutting what they’re trying to share with you with “the facts.” If you’re like most of us, it’s probably a lot. Listening to our partner talk about something that...
by Tanya Schecter | Aug 17, 2025 | Couples Therapy, Relationship Skills, RLT
Strong Lines, Open Hearts: The Role of Boundaries in Intimacy As a therapist, I often listen to people talk about boundaries — how they need better ones, how their partners don’t respect their boundaries, or how their partners don’t have good boundaries. Usually,...
by Tanya Schecter | Aug 11, 2025 | Couples Therapy, EFT, Gottman, Relationship Skills, RLT
If you’ve never been to counselling — whether alone, as a couple, or as a family — the unknown can make you hesitate. You might wonder: Will the therapist judge me? Do I have to spill everything in the first five minutes? Is there such a thing as saying the “wrong”...
