by Tanya Schecter | Dec 15, 2025 | Anger, Anxiety, Boundaries, Relationship Skills
Last year, a woman sat in my office two days after Christmas, still wearing that brittle holiday smile people put on when they’re trying not to fall apart. She told me how she’d walked into her parents’ house determined to be calm, kind, and “stay above it.” But...
by Tanya Schecter | Dec 1, 2025 | Anger, Anxiety, Boundaries, Couples Therapy, Depression, EFT, Gottman, Gratitude, Relationship Skills, RLT
Last week, a couple sat across from me, barely making eye contact. The physical and emotional distance between them was unmistakable. She said softly, “He never listens.” He shot back, “That’s not true. I listen all the time.” When I asked her what she meant, she...
by Tanya Schecter | Oct 13, 2025 | Anger, Couples Therapy, Relationship Skills, RLT, Uncategorized
By Brooke Patterson, RCC Repairing after a fight isn’t about deciding who was right or wrong — it’s about finding your way back to each other. In Relational Life Therapy (RLT), repair is the act of reconnecting. This means: Taking responsibility for your part...
by Tanya Schecter | Oct 6, 2025 | Anger, Boundaries, Couples Therapy, Gottman, Relationship Skills, RLT, Uncategorized
Conflict isn’t a sign your relationship is broken — it’s a sign you’re in one. Ed Tronick, the developmental psychologist who studied parent–child bonds, found that all good relationships move through a rhythm: connection, disconnection, and repair. The magic isn’t in...
by Tanya Schecter | Sep 22, 2025 | Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Gratitude, Relationship Skills, Uncategorized
Mindfulness is the practice of bringing your full attention to the present moment without judgment or distraction. Noticing your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations with curiosity rather than criticism, helps you reduce stress, improve your focus, and create a...
by Tanya Schecter | Sep 1, 2025 | Anger, Couples Therapy, Relationship Skills, Uncategorized
Sam comes home late from work and forgets to text. Alex, stewing for hours, blurts the moment Sam walks in: “You don’t even care enough to tell me where you are!” Sam, feeling accused, snaps back, “I was at work — I don’t need to report to you every second,” before...
