When your relationship feels off, you have two options: work on it together in couples counselling, or focus on yourself in individual therapy. Both are powerful, but they work in different ways. Here’s how to know where to start.
Couples Counselling — When to Choose It
Go this route if:
- You’re stuck in the same argument loop
- Trust has been damaged
- You want better communication and deeper intimacy
- You’re facing a big life transition together (a move, parenthood, retirement)
In couples therapy, the relationship is the client. We focus on how you interact, understand each other, and create patterns that strengthen your bond.
Individual Counselling — When to Choose It
Start here if:
- You’re working through past trauma that’s affecting your relationship
- You need to build self-esteem, boundaries, or emotional regulation
- You want a safe space to explore feelings you’re not yet ready to share with your partner
Individual therapy focuses on helping you show up in your relationships as your best, most grounded self.
Sometimes, You’ll Need Both
It’s common to start with one and add the other. You might do individual therapy first to work through personal challenges, then move into couples counselling when you’re ready to tackle issues together.
The most important thing is to start somewhere.
Ready to Get Help?
At Quoin Counselling, we help you choose the path that fits your needs, so you can stop spinning in the same patterns and start moving toward the relationship — and life — you actually want. Our highly trained counsellors, Brooke Patterson (RCC) and Tanya Schecter (RCC, CCC) can help you no matter which route you decide to pursue.
Click here to book your free consultation at Quoin Counselling in Vancouver, BC to find the start point that’s right for you.
